Ten Rules for Being Human

Posted by mindy on 21 January, 2014
Category General

by Dr.Chérie Carter-Scott
1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”
3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”
4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”
7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
10. You will forget all this.

Changes for the Better

Posted by mindy on 24 October, 2012
Category General

In an effort to join the forces in the 'war against obesity' my insurance company offers to pay for basic membership to designated health clubs. And they finally added one that is convenient for me to get to. I start on the 5th of next month- when I'll be able to start buying monthly unlimited bus passes (another good change).

My goal is get back down below 140. I miss being a size 9.

All I need now is a nutritionist and a life strategist and I'll be set!

Phoenix Rising

Posted by mindy on 28 September, 2012
Category General

This will be a short post. I’m going to let the writer of the article do the talking. In the mean time I’m going to scream like a child in sheer delight.

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AICN EXCLUSIVE!! The Awesome CAPTAIN POWER AND THE SOLDIERS OF THE FUTURE Will Return As A New Series Called PHOENIX RISING!! Official Details, Promo/Announce Video, Title Treatment, And More!!
Published at: Sep 28, 2012 6:12:04 AM CDT

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What I'm following @ 2012 Olympics

Posted by mindy on 04 August, 2012
Category General

There's only one group of event I'm interested in the games. Unfortunately, I don't get a chance to watch them when they air.

London 2012 / Equestrian Olympics

Note to Maritza

Posted by mindy on 26 March, 2012
Category General

I grew up in the late 70s and 80s as well. And while we did not have to deal with the global measure of cyber bullying- some of us still had to deal with bullies.

I believe that bullies have been a part of society since it began. The problem has only recently come to light and attention because of cyber bullying. It saddens me that the chaos had to become this large before society decided it was time to deal with it. And yet some people still persist that it does not exist- or that those who are bullies are innocent because they don't see the behavior the moment they observe them.

- Mindy

Reality Checks for Bullies

Posted by mindy on 15 February, 2012
Category General

Messages are being shared intending to give reality checks to bullies. As a survivor of school bullying I think it’s important to include ‘bully-mobs’. This is when a group some times and entire class ‘gang up’ on one student or a small group. Whether it’s 30 students in a classroom or millions of anonymous voices online- this mob mentality is not only dangerous- it is barbaric- it is evil to the core.

It happened to me in 6th grade. I remember getting to class and taking my seat. The next thing I knew my classmates were yelling and throwing things at me. It put me in tears quickly because I was already in pain. And I didn’t understand why they attacked me, or why our teacher stood by and did nothing.

I can’t say that it was all of my classmates- but to paraphrase the saying - ‘evil prospers where good people do nothing’. I still remember my words to them “what’s the matter with you people? Can’t you respect some one whose father just died?”

This was a defining moment in my life.

The sad part is- not one person knew 'me', who I was as a person and what I was like. I was the bully's little sister, I was the target because they wouldn't stand up to my siblings. And I believe this made me an an easy target for others seeking to unleash their own pain on another.

I pray to God for His help in forgiving my tormentors; some have come and asked for my forgiveness and others have apologized.
Some have been sincere and yet others have not. They know who they are so there is no need to name them.

I work every day to heal and recover from the pain, the anger, and the depression. The hardest moments are when another bully, a new bully comes in to my life. It's like conditioning- the old habits and reactions return. And the cycle goes around again.

What I will never understand are the people who place their allegiance with the bullies. They know what that person is like, they know what is being done to who and why. And yet they turn a blind eye or slip on rose-colored glasses to that person's ways. In the same turn the vilify the bully's victim- justifying the conflict for their own rationalizing.

Some people will even go to the extreme of reversing the roles. They turn the victim into the bully and the bully in to the victim. In one case it was the bully who did this. And the friends jumped to support.

I understand the fetish to control, to dominate - I get that. What I don't understand is the bully or the need to destroy some one mentally or socially. What I will never understand is the mob mentality- the willingness to give up ones individuality for the sake of what the group is doing.

When you believe that the group is more important than the individual- it's my opinion that a person has lost themselves. And in the end, when we each face our maker- we will stand alone to answer for our ways. It is not for the greater good or the means of the many that will determine our fate. For God sees each individual in the collective. And each one of those souls is separate and precious to Him.

It is my belief that God will not count the size of your family or how many friends you have; He will count your ways with them. Every person we have hurt, every pain we have cause, every lie we have told, every distortion of truth, and every betrayal we have committed- He will count against us. Whether it is against another or ourselves doesn't matter. He will count it.

As bleak as this sounds- He will forgive. It's my understanding that if we want His forgiveness- we must forgive. And He will, through his grace, give us the strength to seek forgiveness and to forgive.

To those who have asked me for forgiveness or said 'I'm sorry' - I have one question for you. Have you forgiven yourself?

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